Right at the beginning of this, I said to my children, “The right thing isn’t always the easy thing.” And I believe that. I have tears running down my cheeks as I write this, but it has brought my brother and his wife and I closer together. I did this for them and it has cost me in tears, but we are now bonded in a way that is fundamental and feels unbreakable.
Secret diary of a surrogate mother
Your brother and his wife are desperate to have a child. You offer to help – but will you really be able to give up the twins you’ve carried for nine months? A surrogate mother tells her story…
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I am far from perfect but would love it if we could discuss our relationship openly so that I could work to improve matters if possible. Sometimes I think I should give up but then I fear we would lose touch. Our sons have such a strong friendship that I shall keep on trying for their sakes, as well as mine.
When I tell people that I have an identical twin sister, they all say how lucky I am and how we must be so close. My heart then breaks a little as our relationship truly challenges that stereotype.A letter to my twin sister
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“You have to plan for it, schedule it – consciously make a time and a place for it to happen: “We thought having to pay all that attention to it would somehow distract from it, make it mundane. But it didn’t. The other thing that year made me realise was that men don’t need it more than women. Men might want it for different reasons. But I learned that I wanted it too.
The fact is, Charla says: “Everything just gets better when sex is a vital part of your relationship. He’s happier, you’re happier, the whole house is happier. A daily kindness enters your relationship, a level of attentiveness for each other. It’s almost like you’re dating again … That’s a real discovery.”
Jon Henley catches up with two couples who tried regimes of consecutive sex, for 101 and 365 days respectively. Five years on, are they still, um, at it?
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